March, 2025
Let’s go to Costa Rica! Not long after my husband crossed over, I was invited to go with friends on a Gate One tour to Costa Rica and Panama. Since we had been to Costa Rica years before and loved it, I quickly accepted even though it cost far more than I expected.
What I didn’t know then, but will warn you about now, is that these tours are designed for couples. There is an extra charge (several hundred dollars) for solo travelers, the buses are two seats on either side, the tables in the restaurants are either 4-top or 6-top which leaves an empty chair reminding of your loss. So the prospect of spending time with my friends and helping each other grieve for our missing fourth, I was often alone while they sat together on the bus, or showed up to dinner after I had already chosen a table that filled with others.
Gate One offers a variety of tours, and this one was a “Discovery” tour. Reading the description carefully, you will see that it is “moderately” strenuous, and that you should be in pretty good shape to enjoy this tour. Well, as you may have guessed by now, we didn’t read the description carefully and the tour ended up being endured rather than enjoyed. One day involved several hours on a bumpy road in the bus, then an hour-long hike into the forest, then an hour- long hike back out. I had to turn around and go back to the air-conditioned bus after about 20 minutes. At 83, in the heat and humidity, I was afraid I was going to suffer heat stroke. So, read carefully before committing.
Gate One chooses their hotels with an eye toward folks who can afford the tour, and all of our accommodations were clean, comfortable, with excellent service, and good food. On one day that was planned to include lots of water activities (open boat in the sun) I opted to stay at the hotel. I had a sleep-in (most other days were breakfast at 7 am), a leisurely breakfast, with a pot of delicious Costa Rican coffee, a swim in the pool, and a nap!
While most of our group of about 20 had not been to CR before, the three of us had stayed in a resort at the foot of the volcano, we had seen sloths in the rain forest, had fed bananas to coatimundi, and had been jolted awake by howler monkeys. I hate to say we were jaded, but we had “been there, done that.”
I had not been to Panama and was keen to learn more about it. What I learned was that having lots of money is better than not. Panama’s infrastructure, including its roads, is 10 times better than in its neighbor. I’m not sure I heard this right, but we were told that Panama collects $100,000 from each ship that uses the Panama canal. We were able to learn a lot about the canal and could see the evidence of the wealth it brought the country everywhere. I wish we had been able to spend two days in Panama City, a modern city with architecture, art, science, and water.

My advice is to rent a car in Costa Rica and book your own accommodations. See what most interests you, and then arrange a few days in Panama. If you’re not comfortable being your own travel agent, at least talk to a real person on the phone about the itinerary of any tour you are considering.
On the upside, I met a woman with whom I have a lot in common, and I would never have known her without this tour, so there’s that.










